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Disclaimer: This is the personal story of a survivor of domestic violence. It is intended to help and give hope to those in similar situations. We are not licensed therapists or Doctors. It is in no way an absolute fix or a solution for all. These are the things the story teller has personally dealt with and the lessons learned from their experience. If you need immediate help, please call 9-1-1. Please seek professional help if you are suffering from the ramifications of domestic abuse. The true name of the writer has been concealed for their protection.
It’s Never Ok…
At first it started out as horseplay and then a push or shove would go too far. I would quickly dismiss it and think, “I’m sure he didn’t mean it.”
Soon, the wrong word during an argument, or one too many questions about where he went, who had just called his phone, or really anything he didn’t like ended with me being slapped in the face, thrown to the floor, or worse.
The physical abuse was horrible, but the verbal abuse was just as bad. I couldn’t believe I was dealing with this, accepting this! I was the person that If I heard a rumor like this about someone else I would proudly say “I wouldn’t put up with that if I were her”.
Days turned to months, months turned to years and I was STILL there. I couldn’t even explain it. It’s like he sucked the life and the confidence out of me all at once, and I actually felt like he was as good as it would get. Somehow, the things he said about me being ugly, stupid, and fat, all felt true. It was a dangerous, toxic relationship.
Even after having my nose broken, and ribs bruised, I STILL stayed. It wasn’t until I began to pray and beg God for the strength to leave that I one day did. I never looked back.
It’s never ok! It’s NEVER ok for a man to physically abuse a woman, for any reason. I have a daughter now and I want her to know this! If you are ever hurt and left crying, get out and let someone know! I deserve better, we deserve better! There are still some emotional scars that I’m working on healing, but I’ve come such a long way!
I never want another woman to experience what I went through, to feel like she has no choice but to stay in an abusive relationship. Seek help! Talk to someone! Know that you have options!
Know that you are so valued and so loved!!!
If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.
For anonymous, confidential help, 24/7, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).
If you are being abused by your partner, know there is nothing you have done or are doing to cause the abuse. It is solely the choice of the abuser to abuse. It may seem impossible to escape your abuser, change your circumstances, or find the help you need, but it is possible. However, you know your abuser best, so think carefully through your situation and circumstances and do what is the best for you.
Baton Rouge Area
(225) 389-3001 or statewide toll free at 1-800-541-9706.
Their phones are 24hrs/day
The Butterfly Society (Local non-profit - Zachary)
Battered Women's Shelter (Ascension parish)
1068 E Worthey St,
Gonzales, LA 70737
EBRDA Domestic Violence Division
24/hr National Number(s): 1-800-799-7233 and 1-800-787-3224